lordie Posted May 5, 2013 Report Share Posted May 5, 2013 I pray for a boyfriend .But no man seems to be the one for me Or i get weirdos or they dont understand how i can be a reverand or they wanna make me some one i am not But i still continue to pray Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fawzo Posted May 5, 2013 Report Share Posted May 5, 2013 lordie from my personal experiences I have found that sometimes we seek for something so hard we actually force it away and love seems to find us when we least expect it. Brightest Blessings and I hope that true love finds you soon enough Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Atwater Vitki Posted May 6, 2013 Report Share Posted May 6, 2013 So very true Fawzo. Yet another aspect to prayer is if you believe, truly believe in its power, then follow what Yeshua said in Matt 6:9-13 as "the Father" knows your every need Lordie. Have faith in what you Believe or it is of little value in all reality.The same goes for followers of alternative paths, if they Believe in 'spells' or 'rites' or 'calling rituals' or '(whatevers)?', its all in how strong the belief is and the specific requests involved. No matter what path someone follows, there is usually a set manner in which to petition the "Powers" to do your bidding. Follow those instructions and fully, truly, 100% believe and you'll be amazed at what may happen.Blessings of Peace, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lannah Posted May 7, 2013 Report Share Posted May 7, 2013 I pray for a boyfriend .But no man seems to be the one for meOr i get weirdos or they dont understand how i can be a reverand or they wanna make me some one i am notBut i still continue to prayHi Lordie,You know what has worked for me? e harmony! I met my Malcolm there in July 2007, and we are still together! I would have never run into him on the street of where i live or work, because geographical we did not coincide.My colleague Teri, met her boyfriend on e harmony too. After struggling with dating guys that she met here and there. Her now beau is a pastor, and is sweet, kind and handsome. They've been together for over a year now.AND, my son met his fiance on e harmony too! They would have never met either, for it goes back to people being in spaces that never connect. Erica lived in the Northern Chicago suburbs, and went to school at Loyola Univ (on the extreme East side). She worked full-time and studied half time. We live in the Near West suburbs, and my son went to school also in the Near West Suburbs. He studied full-time and worked 2 jobs. Had it not been for the e harmony, they would have never connected.We, my daughter, Malcolm and I, LOVE Erica! She's an amazing young woman, the sister my daughter always wanted. She loves and understands my son. And Malcolm always says: Gabriel doesn't know how lucky he is to have found her, now, that they are both young and will be able to build a life and a family together. Malcolm was married twice. Both marriages lasted 3 years. Both of his ex-wives left him. He and i have been friends since 2007, and officially became a couple in 2010. So we have been together, as a romantic couple for 3 years. Our relationship is going on to 6 years. That is longer than his marriages, and longer than mine! (i was married to the children's father for 5 years). All the guys i had dated were not interested in a serious relationship. And i don't want a frivolous relationship. If you specifically want a Christian man, there is christian mingle, which is only for Christian singles/couples. e harmony allows for more variety. Don't stop praying! I had felt that God had forgotten to make someone for me! It turned out that we were in different locations, and because we are so compatible and committed, and happy with each other, have made this long distance relationship work! Because we really click together!!Pray about it, and i would recommend trying it out. The worst that could happen is that you do not find anyone. Which by the looks of it, it is already happening. The best that could happen is that you find your soul mate!It has worked for us!!! For real!!! I am not paid to advertise the company!!Blessings!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordie Posted May 7, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2013 I will try all of you guys ideas Thank you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan56 Posted May 9, 2013 Report Share Posted May 9, 2013 Sometimes prayers just require a little patience before getting an answer;During intensive prayer, I asked God, "Is it true that a thousand years is as one day to you?" And God answered, "Yes, my son." Feeling the utter awesomeness of God, I then inquired, "Father, since you are all powerful, may I please have a million dollars?" To which God replied, "Yes my son. Tomorrow." Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Raincloud Posted May 10, 2013 Report Share Posted May 10, 2013 I find that if I want something specific that I need to make a list. So it would be wise to write a massive list and then pray for a guy that meets all the aspects of the list.It worked for me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottedward Posted May 12, 2013 Report Share Posted May 12, 2013 I've found that the best advice for me to offer is that you give up. It's not how it sounds; the idea is for you to stop wishing for what you don't have, so that you might focus instead on what's currently within reach. Build something, find a goal, or become a part of something you can be proud of. The idea is for you to strengthen yourself intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Once you've accomplished this (a continual practice that never has to end), you will have become strong enough that you won't need anybody other than the company of friends to be satisfied. After you've accomplished this, suddenly all of the men will notice you. Those who are truly secure with themselves won't be looking for a woman who needs them. The focus of their search will be women who want them. It is that difference (in you) that will get their attention. Before you know it, you'll be beating them off with a stick every twenty minutes, and making all of your friends jealous.Happy hunting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grateful Posted May 15, 2013 Report Share Posted May 15, 2013 I've found that the best advice for me to offer is that you give up. It's not how it sounds; the idea is for you to stop wishing for what you don't have, so that you might focus instead on what's currently within reach. Build something, find a goal, or become a part of something you can be proud of. The idea is for you to strengthen yourself intellectually, emotionally, and spiritually. Once you've accomplished this (a continual practice that never has to end), you will have become strong enough that you won't need anybody other than the company of friends to be satisfied. After you've accomplished this, suddenly all of the men will notice you. Those who are truly secure with themselves won't be looking for a woman who needs them. The focus of their search will be women who want them. It is that difference (in you) that will get their attention. Before you know it, you'll be beating them off with a stick every twenty minutes, and making all of your friends jealous.Happy hunting best.advice.ever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scottedward Posted May 16, 2013 Report Share Posted May 16, 2013 best.advice.ever.Blushes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gwydion Posted May 16, 2013 Report Share Posted May 16, 2013 Just be careful. Sometimes you do get what you wish for. Unfortunately, many times the object is more desirable while we are wanting it. The man you seek may not seem as fantastic when he is sitting around in his underwear watching crime dramas and spilling potato chips on the floor. You don't want to end up with buyer's remorse. Back in college I had a criminology professor who had been married for a very long time. She said that the secret was not finding the perfect man, but finding one whose imperfections you were willing to tolerate . It is good advice, and it has worked for me, even when faced with dirty plates from a midnight snack and empty coke cans left on the counter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Kaman Posted May 16, 2013 Report Share Posted May 16, 2013 The magic of the universe is at your command. All you need to do is ask and then let it go. To keep asking is like ordering something from a catalogue and reordering it every day because it has not arrived yet. Ask and know that it will be delivered in its own time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grateful Posted May 17, 2013 Report Share Posted May 17, 2013 ..all this great advice .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordie Posted May 22, 2013 Author Report Share Posted May 22, 2013 It sure is great advice !! And i think some of it i ll try . So thanksLordie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lannah Posted June 4, 2013 Report Share Posted June 4, 2013 Hi Lordie,Have you tried www. eharmony. com yet? There is also www. match . com. And if you are a Christian, there is www. christianmingle. comI hope things work out for you. Don't just sit around waiting for someone to fall on your lap from the sky. There are so many nice people out there that we would not be able to meet otherwise!=) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordie Posted June 8, 2013 Author Report Share Posted June 8, 2013 Oh lannah i did try match eharmony christian mingle . But no guy i like so i tried datehookup ThanksLordie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maria Dwight Posted June 19, 2013 Report Share Posted June 19, 2013 Just be careful. Sometimes you do get what you wish for. Unfortunately, many times the object is more desirable while we are wanting it. The man you seek may not seem as fantastic when he is sitting around in his underwear watching crime dramas and spilling potato chips on the floor. You don't want to end up with buyer's remorse. Back in college I had a criminology professor who had been married for a very long time. She said that the secret was not finding the perfect man, but finding one whose imperfections you were willing to tolerate . It is good advice, and it has worked for me, even when faced with dirty plates from a midnight snack and empty coke cans left on the counter.This here was pretty good advice!All the other posts as well.I just absolutely love how we have a community here that we can depend on for support and fellowship.Honestly, lordie, I'm in the same situation. However, I've let it go. I mean, why force it? I've learned that things like that just happen.Also, I have come across the understanding that my worth isn't measured in another person. Before I wanted a romantic relationship to fill a void I had because I lacked the love and support from my folks and didn't have a lot of friends.I would find something to keep you busy. A goal or a dream to pursue. And by doing this you're not giving up on the hope to find a significant other. No, you're not. What you're doing is giving your life purpose so that you will be able to be a full partner in the next relationship.And by not feeling 100% your best, you won't be able to give a 100% to your partner.That and I don't want to be an emotional wreck when I enter a relationship. That just means you let them have control over your emotions and they have to babysit you in turn. That's kind of close to codependency, I think.Don't give up! Go ahead and keep trying our advice and see what happens. If another problem comes up, don't hesitate to ask! That's what we're here for. <3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordie Posted June 20, 2013 Author Report Share Posted June 20, 2013 Thanks freyjaworshipYea i like this forum too always honest I have been taking classes to avoid thinking about a boyfriend it aint easy but i am trying Thanks peaceLordie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RevTom Posted June 21, 2013 Report Share Posted June 21, 2013 This here was pretty good advice!All the other posts as well.I just absolutely love how we have a community here that we can depend on for support and fellowship.Honestly, lordie, I'm in the same situation. However, I've let it go. I mean, why force it? I've learned that things like that just happen.Also, I have come across the understanding that my worth isn't measured in another person. Before I wanted a romantic relationship to fill a void I had because I lacked the love and support from my folks and didn't have a lot of friends.I would find something to keep you busy. A goal or a dream to pursue. And by doing this you're not giving up on the hope to find a significant other. No, you're not. What you're doing is giving your life purpose so that you will be able to be a full partner in the next relationship.And by not feeling 100% your best, you won't be able to give a 100% to your partner.That and I don't want to be an emotional wreck when I enter a relationship. That just means you let them have control over your emotions and they have to babysit you in turn. That's kind of close to codependency, I think.Don't give up! Go ahead and keep trying our advice and see what happens. If another problem comes up, don't hesitate to ask! That's what we're here for. <3Be yourself...let those worthwhile come to you and please be careful in your selection/choices. I like Freyja Worship/ Gwydion's response... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lordie Posted June 21, 2013 Author Report Share Posted June 21, 2013 Me too and thanks windwalkerPeaceLordie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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