cuchulain Posted June 7, 2017 Report Share Posted June 7, 2017 There have been many times that I have misunderstood someone on this forum. Usually, my impulse has been to attack that person in some manner, or to defend myself from what I perceived to be an attack. I have witnessed others misunderstand each other on a regular basis. Dan and Johnathan have that ongoing thing about Atheists and the definition thereof. ULCNeo had an issue with who could post on his topic, and many seemed to become disgruntled about that as well. It has been debated who has the burden of communicating effectively. But I have come to the conclusion that the onus lies on both parties. If I speak with someone with a lisp, I don't become offended because they didn't communicate as effectively as I think they should have. I take a minute to understand what they are saying to me, and I realize that they have a communication issue beyond their control. Some issues are within control, of course. Reference Dan and Johnathan. Dan could take the time to consider that Atheists don't believe in nothing, and rephrase. Johnathan could take the time to realize that's just how Dan says it and he might not mean anything derogatory by it. Of course the possibility exists that Dan is deliberately provoking Johnathan. But even if that is the case, without some proof that Dan is baiting Johnathan, I think(and it's just my opinion of that particular scenario) that Johnathan should simply give Dan the benefit of the doubt, or let it go. Recently, it seems I have been unintentionally offending Leopardboy. Apologies. I don't mean to be offensive to you. It was simply how I typed it on the computer, I didn't think it through all the way, I didn't view every particular of every sentence for the possibility that what I was writing might offend someone. I remember a topic a brief time back where you complained about wanting to post some other things but being afraid that if you did you might be criticized endlessly, referencing the contention with the Atheists and Christians of the forum. I don't know if you will recall. It has gotten to that point with me numerous times in the past. Then I realized that it doesn't matter how others interpret what I say, rather what I mean when I say it. The same holds true for you, for mererdog, for Dan and Johnathan as well. And for all others. This is all backstory of course, to the topic at hand. Political correctness, a thing that has been derided...yet persistently sought. If people are tired of the pc, why do they vigorously pursue it in their own favor? Hypocritical, a little. I have been guilty of that as well. But I try to do better, and I would like to think the attempt is worth something. If it isn't, there is an ignore button. Or willpower, or simply letting things go, you know? I don't come on this board and deliberately call people stupid, fools, sheep...some have. I try to refrain from that. I try to keep within the parameters that have been set. I try not to bait people, sometimes I fail. But part of that is because the burden of communication lies on both parties, and not just me. I can say something innocuous and someone can take it how they want, if they want to see an attack, they can find a way to make it sound that way I am sure. If they want to think it genius, they can equally find a way to make it sound that way. But in the spirit of being positive toward each other and trying to honestly educate or share points of view, does it do any rational good to find the worst way to interpret something someone says and focus on that? That is my question. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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