Sorry to come in on this thread so late. If I may...I have been friends with someone since childhood. We are not always able to connect, but each knows the other is there should we need to reach out to someone. Over 30 years, we have been friends. Through marriages, births, divorces, and deaths. I understand there are things happening beyond my control. Perception is much a part of everything. Questioning a friends motivation or intent can be akin to confrontation, which no one wants. I always give time and chance for my friend to come around when I feel I have been slighted or such. Often I find, I was mistaken in my assumption. Still, friends are able to forgive and share their sympathies and understanding, love and grief. Question you should ask yourself, would you be any better, worse, or the same with the person in your life? Afterall, there is cause and effect with every choice.