LO, it comes with time, time does heal all wounds, time is so dreadfully slow when it comes to love or as I surmise from your post, love lost. One day it will sneak up on you and you'll notice that you're thinking of and planning something future tense and looking forward to it. At fist thought you might feel that you're cheating yourself, your past, your pain, your hurt, but you'll also understand that you're changing in a forward direction. imho I view it as a bridge and that would be the halfway point, the peak, from experience it's downhill from there and gets better as time goes on. I'm not just posting here, I speak from experience. What I lost will be and can be never replaced, but has become part of me and who I am. What my future holds no one knows but I'm ready willing and able to head down this new unknown and sometimes scary path. I wish you the best! Pegasuss