Hi,
I have been struggling in my relationship with my husband since we had our daughter a year and a half ago. He has been increasingly more aggressive and borderline emotionally abusive. We were putting our daughter to bed the other night and he was trying to get her to give him a kiss. She was getting more and more upset the more that he tried and was crying for her pacifier back. He finally got tired of trying and took both of her pacifiers away (one was already in his hand and one was in hers) and threw them on the floor saying “fine you don’t get any pacifiers then”, roughly handed her to me and walked out of the room. It breaks my heart because he is so different from the man I married and I don’t know what to do. I don’t want my daughter to have to deal with this as she continues to get older and understands more, but I also don’t want to file for divorce and leave her to deal with this on her own when she has visits with him. She shouldn’t have to deal with this kind of emotional distress. I need help.