AmandaT

I did notice that; that they referenced a lot of things the church charged for (newsletters, etc.) back in '74, that was purported to be 'communication', which is now free, and there is an EXTREMELY fast HUMAN response to any questions/issues one may have (which I know because I had to use the system yesterday, and received responses and resolved my issue within 2 hours!) So a lot of things have changed, but Virginia is still an extremely conservative state, especially (from what I have paid attention to) in regards to legislation. Unless it is something that becomes federally mandated (which I'm not even sure is allowed) I'm almost positive that Virginia will be one of the last hold outs for things such as legalization of marijuana, and same-sex-marriages. If it's 'liberal' they don't like it (legislatively speaking). I'd love if someone took it back before the courts, but I don't want that person to be me. I don't want my life to be dug around in, which is exactly what would happen by the media, etc. if it became a big deal. Thanks, but no thanks! :-)

Dorian Grey; Thanks for your links! I read them, and from what I can understand (legal-ese isn't a language I'm very fluent in!) According to case law in Virginia, I am not legally allowed to perform marriages, BUT if I got lucky & gave my paperwork to a clerk that either doesn't know or care about this information, and they approved me for performing such celebratory rites, I *can* do it, and it would be legally binding? Not sure if I want to put those in my lifestyle at risk for legal headaches or worrying about the legality of their marriages. What a shame. :-(

Thanks for the replies, everyone! I really appreciate the help! :-)

http://virginia.usmarriagelaws.com/ I also found this... the part I am most unclear about is "... and regular communion with the religious society of which he is a reputed member." Does this mean I have to have the 'Good Standing Letter' mentioned on the website? Thanks, Amanda

I became ordained because the usual ceremonies people would like to have (in my lifestyle)* are generally frowned upon by 'regular' religions, yet many want to be married, and be married their OWN way, not how someone else tells them they should. My question is this: In a few quick searches about what was required in my state, most were simple 1 sentence answers, the most comprehensive answer being http://usmarriagelaws.com/search/united_states/officiants_requirements/index.shtml I don't have a 'Church' or congregation, I simply wanted to be able to officiate at ceremonies that are unorthodox in mainstream society, but in reading this, I am concerned that I have wasted my own time, as well as the administration staff of ULC. Any help, suggestions, thoughts, experience? *edited for clarity