Estranged Family Members in Stories & Texts Archive Posted June 16, 2012 · Edited June 16, 2012 by HHolmquist · Report reply My partner of 26 years, some may prefer 'wife' but we never formally married, at one time worked in a recovery center dealing with just such situations and recovering mothers.I am certain she would give similar advice as that of Ms. Salem above. With all cases it is up to you to prove to your daughters they can trust you. Above all else Ms. Saved, you must remain focused on the fact this entire situation revolves around their trusting you, not you wanting to be a part of their lives. This may be the first time in their lives they can ever do such a thing as trust you so it's not going to be easy for them.One method my wife's clinic encouraged was leave the grandchildren entirely out of the contact and conversation. Send your daughters a loving card or letter every three to four months and a phone call once every six months. This lets them know you are still trying without being pushy. In many cases it took from two to five years for the walls to be broken down sufficiently for the children of addicts to chance trusting the parent again.You must be committed to your recovery first, your daughter's needs second and lastly your need to settle the guilt within. Should you break their trust at any time during this period of trepid association, I'm certain you are aware it would completely diminish any second chance.