I am sorry to hear of the passing of your father and of the conflicts within your family Nature Boy Pastor Brian has given good advice when he said "He's your father and you have every right to go and pay your respects." and when he said "Just go, be confident, family is always, well, family..." Sometimes, I think, life only presents with choices between a rock and a very hard place. If you go family may use it as an opportunity to attack you, and that would their wrong not yours. If you do not go they will almost certainly attack you for that, which, I guess, would be both their wrong and, a